Women getting bad advice from girlfriends about relationships

Coming from a guy who has observed this first hand, I'm not just typing through my nose here(so to uh type). Everytime I'm with a girl and we have some kind of disagreement I can almost always tell when she's been talking to her girlfriends.

From what I can tell, going to a girlfriend for relationship advice is like going to a medical book to diagnose yourself. It might be somewhat helpful, but due to lack of detail she needs because she wasn't there first hand, you end up coming away more paranoid than helped. A paranoid relationship is not a good thing at all! Never ever underestimate what lack of trust can do!

The most common theme with women giving other women advice is that this man is obviously trying to control or manipulate you. He is out to rob you of your life. It doesn't matter what sad story scenerio you give them, this will somehow almost always come up. Do you really want the same cookie cut-out advice for every single problem you come to them with? If he's acting distant or spending a lot of time away from home, he's almost always cheating on you according to many of them.

In my opinion the problem with taking a woman's advice about your relationship is that every man is unique. Sure some men have similarities but even with that said, we all have our own personalities and motives. From my observation, some/many women tend to relate to your story through horrible relationships they've had. So now your guy becomes every bad relationship she's had! I alway hear a woman say, "Oh that reminds me of what Bill used to do, watch out that should be seen as a red flag!" Keep in mind, in many cases you're taking advice from someone who failed and doesn't know as much as you do about your current relationship.

I had this one girl I was dating and somewhat pursuing, tell me that I just wanted a young women like her so I could control them (I was 30 and she was 21). After she said that I immediately knew that she must have been talking to some other girlfriend about me. First of all, a guy liking younger women is pretty natural. Many guys like younger women. Are they all trying to be controlling? There are logical reasons men instrinctively go for younger women, but that's beyond the scope of this note. The point is that according to her friend, any guy who is significantly older than her is automatically controlling. All of a sudden I'm old, set in my ways and am unable to think of another person! Why?? Because her friend told her so!

Another problem with following a girlfriends advice is that you just might have a hemorrhoid for a friend (please read my note on hemorrhoids for more details). Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that a girlfriend's advice is altogether rediculous, I'm just saying take her advice with a grain of salt. Her advice might actually be helpful, but you should always use your own brain/gut as your ultimate guide (in my opinion).

I am a nice guy most of the time. I'm not controlling as far as I can tell. I have never been unfaithful. I'm not sneaky about the really bad things. If I'm with a woman and we have a disagreement, I'm doomed if she goes to her friend for advice. I all of a sudden become every one of those things I'm not. The advice she received accomplished nothing except ruining an otherwise potentially good relationship! The sad part is often the breakup is caused by total illusionment!

My advice ladies, if you have a problem with your man, talk to him first!