The Rejector Protector woman!

WARNING: I was in a crazy and silly mood when I wrote the following:


The imfamous Rejector Protector woman!

I run into women like this once in a while. It's when for whatever reason they want to reject me and it's usually to protect themselves in one form or another. Usually their ego. The odd part is it doesn't always mean they don't like me! It must be one of those women are from Venus moments.

Then there is the Preumptive Rejector. They're in the same family as the Rejector Protector so I'll talk about them too. This is when they THINK you might be interested so they let you know they're not JUST IN CASE. I understand that in many ways some of them truly mean well but this is how it feels to me. Imagine you're walking down the street and someone walks up to you out of the blue and says, "I think you want me, oh and just so you know, I don't want you back!" What are you going to think? Do I say, "Oh thank you for letting me know?" I'm thinking wow, I don't even have to ask a woman out to be rejected. I don't even know how to respond to something like that. In a way it almost feels like a voluntary insult, because my first thought is WHY NOT, what's so wrong with me? She might as well just walk up to me and say, "Oh just in case you like me, the answer is no!" What a total wtf moment. They have more nerve than me, I don't even have the nerve to answer a girl when she asks me if I think she's getting fat.

I actually have a guy friend named Roger who uses the Rejector Protector technique on women. Yes a male Rejector Protector! I asked him how that's possible since the man is usually the one to do the asking. He said he has it all figured out. What he does is walk up to a woman from behind and taps her on the shoulder to ask her for a dance. When she turns her head to see who tapped her shoulder, he puts a really sour and suprised look on his face, he puts his hand up to block his view of her face and he says, "Oh nevermind!" He takes great pleasure in what he calls ego bashing. I suppose everyone needs a hobby right? I'm sure each woman he approaches feel that same wtf moment.

I have a really good story about a Rejector Protector. It happened to me at the Starry Plough. I was on my SideKick reading and my good girl-friend Vanessa tells me that a girl is staring at me (isn't it cool when an opposite sex friend will do that and not try to shoot you in the foot? Vanessa has always acted as my scout, she's so cool that way.) Anyway I pretended to be cocky by asking Vanessa what she thinks I thought of that.. She asked me what.... I replied, "Pfft nothin'".. That may not have been too far from the truth because I didn't pay her much mind. Well all of a sudden I hear a voice. It's that girl asking me about my SideKick. I'm thinking okay, now she's making a move. Naturally I didn't do very well because I am a little shy and especially so if they approach me, so I didn't say much and generally made an idiot out of myself. For a few weeks she would always sit at my table and danced with me quite a bit. Once she got more established at the place and sort of decided that I wasn't for her, she drifted some but it wasn't obvious enough to notice just yet. Anyway, my friend Carla decides that she think this girl really likes me. Carla walks up and tries to pair us up to dance together, making it very obvious that she thinks this girl likes me. I have to admit Carla made quite a scene. After the dance this girl says she needs to talk to me and we walk outside. She said that before months and months go by, she wants to let me know up front that she's not interested in me. My mouth dropped. Later she explained that she thought I put Carla up to doing what she did and I said NO.. Anyway, on many levels this was kind of annoying. 1. She came to me first and was initiating obvious interest. I never did anything but go with her flow. It's not my fault she's fickle or that she moves faster than the time it takes to know me. 2. She said she wasn't interested and yet she didn't even have time to know me! What could that mean? I can only hope she just thought we were moderately incompatible. Considering just weeks prior she seemed interested, I can also imagine the possibility could be that she thinks my personality sucks. 3. Likely she was only rejecting me to save face. When she saw how obvious her interest was in me she got embarrassed and wanted to prove that she wasn't. Well that's one guess anyway. She no longer goes to the Starry Plough and she no long befriends anyone that she met there. I guess she now considers herself too good. I haven't seen her in probably 2 years. So she is a definitely a possible Rejector Protector. No, I don't attend junior high but this paragraph sure does sound like it. :) Yes, I just admitted it.

Then there is the Reciprocating Lover. This is a person who thinks that just because you love her, that she is required to tell you how SHE feels about you. Yes it feels good to be loved back by someone I love, but it's not manditory. I might see a woman do some very wonderful things. She might feed the poor and take care of sick and dying puppies on the roadside. I see all these wonderful things so I tell her, "I really do love you" and her reply is, "I'm sorry but I don't feel the same." I'm like where in the frickin' world did that come from? For one, love never expects anything in return if it's true and for two, how she feels about me doesn't change or have anything to do with how I feel about her. I can love a flower without picking it and puting it inside a vase! In fact, I'm happier to leave the flower where it wants to be.

Don't think for a second it's the prettiest of girls who behave like this! Not necessarily, it's mostly the insecure. This means the toads have a shot too!

Any serious responses to this blogs gets a double L-O-L.

P.S. I love you all!:-)