Saturday, June 13, 2009

All That Matters...




Together we sit in the midst of infinite,

resting for a speck of eternity.

As I look into your eyes they open like shutters..

In I peer as if seeing through the windows of your essence..

We lay and look up into the night sky, watching the stars hang by strings.

Strings played like a harp, for in their awsome beauty it's music to the sight.

Two people in the middle of forever seem almost insignificant,

but within its great splender, you're all that matters.

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

How to Plan Out Routines for a Structured Computer Program




By Troyster,





The spine (or back bone) of most structured (also called modular) programs usually contain 4 basic routines. Some form of initialization followed by input, process and output. Starting from this point and carefully expanding from there in the form of simple subroutines can greatly reduce bugs and coding complexity.


Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions



Things You'll Need:
  • pencil
  • paper



  • Step 1
    The first step is to create the Initialization Routine. This routine is used to define variable names, as well as predefine variable values and types that will be used later in the program. This routine establishes the basic ground work that will be needed throughout your program. All initial values and layouts are set here to be used later in your program.

    Step 2
    The next step is to create the Input (or Read) Routine. This routine is used to pull in raw data from an outside source. This source can be tape, diskette, hard drive, flash, punch card or even keyboard entry. You can read data for either a preset number of records, until a certain condition is met, or until an end of file marker is reached. There is usually a variable that will change when data reading is complete. This variable is called a flag. In the Input Routine you may collect raw data from multiple sources to be used later in the program.

    Step 3
    The Process Routine is what is considered to be the heart of your program. This is where you take the raw data that was read and process it in a way that can be used later for future output or other use. The process can be arithmetic where scores are added from a record and then averaged, it can be used to compare or can even organize data in a desired fashion or order.

    Step 4
    The final step is your Output Routine. This takes the results given to it by the Process Routine and sends it to some kind of output device. This output device can be tape, diskette, hard drive, flash, punch card, printer or display screen.

    Tips & Warnings



    Tips:
  • As long as your program starts off with this basic structure, it will be easier to read, troubleshoot and upgrade.
  • Keep things simple stupid. If a subroutine gets too complex, break it up.
  • Plan, flowchart and desk check your program ahead of time.
  • Write out plenty of documentation.
  • Use logical aids such as Venn diagrams or Boolean equations.

    Warnings:
  • Always make sure your routines have only one entry and exit point.
  • Avoid goto statements.
  • Avoid any other bad habits that can turn your program into spaghetti code.

  • How to Pick a Good Woman


    How to Pick a Good Woman

    By Troyster,



    The perfect woman is out there...

    Finding a good woman is not an easy task. This how to will help you pick out the good ones from the bad apples.


    Difficulty: Moderate


    Instructions



    Things You'll Need:


    Patience
    Good communication
    Observation
    Time



  • Step 1
    When you see a woman walking along never looking your direction and supporting a prissy gaze on her face, she might be a wrong pick. A woman that meets your eyes and gives you a nice wholesome smile is far better. The ones that try to look sexy and absorb all the attention are really quite selfish. It's almost like holding a conversation with someone who talks too much or too little. It's very one sided.

  • Step 2
    If you're the one who always calls her and she never or rarely calls you, she's probably not a good pick. If she can't fathom in her head that receiving a call from her would be a thrill to you, then she probably isn't a good choice. Even if she's not calling because of some kind of hard to get game, it's still not a good idea. The best woman is the woman who is always thoughtful about your feelings, period. Another point is that it's always better to want a woman who likes you enough to WANT to call you, otherwise why invest your time in her?

  • Step 3
    When you're on a date and you just opened your passenger car door to let her in, as you walk around to get in on your side, you better see her reach across to unlock your door for you! This is a very serious test. In my own personal experience, most women who don't reach across to unlock the door are selfish and will make life totally miserable for you.

  • Step 4
    If you are always the one who has to hug her first or ask her to come sit by you she's a bad idea. A good woman will come up from behind and wrap her arms around you even when you don't ask for it. She WANTS to sit next to you. She doesn't play little games to try to make you chase her. A good woman will not say, "The man is supposed to make the first move." Good women know that men are human too. Your feelings are very important to a good woman.

  • Step 5
    So you give this girl you met flowers and you take her to all kinds of nice places and what does she do for you? Well, a good woman will bake you cookies, maybe invite you over for dinner or some other kind thing. If you're getting nothing in return, she might be a bad idea.

  • Step 6
    A good woman does not keep an army of "guy friends" she knows all would like to get up her skirt. If you come across a woman like this run for the hills. She will usually say something like, "I have more guy friends than girl friends. I don't get along with girls very well." The reality is she can have a whole lot more "boyfriends" if she calls them friends. Some girls just don't relate well with other girls, so take this suggestion with a grain of salt.

  • Step 7
    When you hear a woman say, "I don't care what a man looks like, personality is all that matters" be just a touch cautious. A woman like this may not want to express attraction for you because she wants control. She is supposed to be the attractive vision of desire and you're suppose to be the lucky bum that got her because you were just that sweet. Trust me, it is very unlikely that your average woman will give you time of day if she finds you extremely unattractive.

  • Step 8
    You walk up and tell her how beautiful she looks. Does she ever compliment you? Does she even say thank you? A good woman will pay attention to you and to the many things you do in life. A good woman isn't all about being "the vision of desire," she knows it's a RELATIONSHIP, not some one sided modeling audition. She knows your schedule and she knows what you like and dislike. A good woman also cares about your appearance, she will offer to fix your shirt if the collar is messed up or let you know if you have something out of place.

  • Step 9
    When you ask a good woman what she wants in a relationship, you won't hear the word "I" in the list of answers. At least not in the majority of the list. In a relationship "WE" and "US" are better words.

  • Step 10
    When a good women gets angry with you, she's still reasonable. She doesn't let how she feels at that moment dictate how she feels for you in general. She isn't ruled by her emotions. She will not over react to get her way. A good woman's "way" is whatever makes both of you happy.

  • Step 11
    If you call a good woman in the middle of the night telling her your car just broke down, she will come out and pick you up. A good woman will do things for you if you ask. If you find that you're the only one willing to do nice things or favors for a woman, I suggest losing her quickly.

  • Step 12
    A good woman will not try to change you. She will like you for who you are. This is very important because then you know she picked you because she likes YOU, not for who she wants you to be.

  • Step 13
    Balance is key in a relationship. Most everything I've mentioned so far desires a two way street or some form of equal fairness. Well sexuality is no exception. A good woman has a balance there too. A good woman, in my opinion is not a nymphomaniac who is vulgar and keeps a collection of sexual toys. On the other hand she doesn't act afraid of sex either. She has good moral values but that doesn't mean she has no desire.

  • Step 14
    A good woman will not threaten to break up with you over every disagreement. A good woman realizes that nobody agrees all the time and she's willing to compromise. A good woman cares about how you feel and will not play games to get her way. She wants you to be happy too, and because of this she prefers mutual decisions. To a good woman, a relationship is NOT a contest.

  • Step 15
    In picking a good woman it's just as important to know how she acts when she's out of love as it is when she's in love. Any woman can be sweet and fair minded when she loves a guy, the true test is when things aren't so great. For that reason, sometimes meeting a divorced woman is good. You can at least see how she deals with a man she doesn't agree with or maybe even has a strong dislike for. If she wants revenge and she attempts to take him far beyond what you consider reasonably fair, watch out for her. You might be the next victim. As soon as something doesn't go her way, you're in trouble!

  • Step 16
    When you get to the point where you and a woman decide to be together, it's very important to know what both of you want from the relationship. You might want sex and she might want security. You might want companionship, she might want your money. The two of you can want different things as long as your differences aren't conflicting. A woman with conflicting differences would be a bad pick. It's better if BOTH of you are getting what you want out of the relationship.

    Tips & Warnings


    These steps involve my own personal opinions, so read it for what it's worth to you.
    Never tell a woman what you're looking for. If she knows what you like, she will know to act that way if she wants you. Keep quiet and let her display the real her.


    Photo Credit
    dl10.glitter-graphics.net
  • Saturday, June 6, 2009

    Dating Game




    It's been brought to my understanding that many women believe men enjoy the chase. Well I'm not one of them. I see no point in investing my time in someone who seems like they don't like or appreciate me. Do these women tease animals at the zoo with food for attention too? If you happen to be some rare lady who just by freak luck has some remote attraction for me and would like to be successful, I have one suggestion. When trying to "get me" ask youself the question, "Am I doing the right thing?" If what you're doing is not right, then likely I will start to pay you less and less attention and eventually you'll end up with a guy who loves the chase or your games you play, but likely that guy won't be me (unless you can cook a good lasagna!). I prefer someone who is true and not super complicated. I'm not smart enough to keep up with all the complex stuff!

    My thoughts on the absolute perfect woman....



    I think a friendly smile and a kind hello is far better than hard to get (unless I would prefer her to be hard to get). I think that natural is far better than vain hours in front of a mirror, looking at makeup. Outward admiration and making someone feel wanted is much better than being self absorbed. Women who want to be looked at are a dime a dozen, the real catch is one who pays attention to the man she likes, without always feeling like she has to be the "featured item!". Kindness in the eyes is better than a prissy gaze that is supposed to make her look like a model. Looking like a model will just alienate me from a girl. I like a girl that is down to earth and human. Someone that is nice. If all else fails, at least look good in stretchy pants.

    Proper toilet seat etiquette.



    Let me mention a common problem men and women have. That is, what is correct, leaving the toilet seat up or putting it down? My thinking is that in some regards a guy is doing a courtesy by raising it, because if he doesn't, you'll be the one sitting in pee, not him. Another way of looking at it, is that if he places the seat down out of courtesy for her then she should raise the seat out of courtesy for him (isn't that fair?). I think the reason most guys leave the seat up is because they tend to go number 1 more than number 2 and it just makes practical sense for them to leave it up. If she claims it's considered proper to place the seat down after using it, I would tell her that's fine but she has to put the lid down too, because that's the way the toilet is supposed to be left. If she's really worried about being proper, she would agree. If she's on a power trip then that's another story. I have no problem putting the seat down when I need it down or raising it when I need to raise it. I'm not sure why some women have an issue with this but if it's because of a power trip, then they're simply NOT MY TYPE. I'm also confused with women that don't look before they sit down. Women who are too stupid to check the seat before they sit down or not only NOT MY TYPE but they also have a very wet butt.

    List of reasons I've been turned down for a dance.



    I'm not saying the reasons I've heard were necessarily untrue. I just thought it would be fun to list them. I'm not sure if this is considered bragging rights since getting turned down is at least in theory humiliating. I can only hope my ego will survive this.

    1. I don't like the song.
    2. I have to use the restroom.
    3. I'm watching my girlfriend's purse.
    4. I'm just here to drink.
    5. I'm going to be leaving soon.
    6. My boyfriend/husband is here and he gets jealous.
    7. I already told somebody else I would dance with him to this song.
    8. I don't know how to dance, or I don't know how to dance THIS dance.
    9. I'm waiting for another guy to ask me, but you can come back if you want.
    10. I'm waiting for the food/drink I ordered.
    11. I'm not feeling good.
    12. Take off the tie and I might dance with you.
    13. I'm just here to visit with my girlfriends.
    14. I had knee surgery and my doctor said I shouldn't dance.
    15. I've been dancing all night and I'm really really tired, soooooorry.
    16. I'm holding these seats for friends that are coming.
    17. I'm too shy to dance in front of people.
    18. Not right now, ask me some other time.
    19. I can't dance with you because you remind me of my ex.
    20. I have frost bite on my toe.

    I must say in closing that not all of these reasons were excuses. Some of the reasons were from very sweet young ladies who did in fact dance with me at other times. As for the others, I guess they're still hiding from me.

    Social experiment I conducted recently

    I went to a place regularly that I would like to leave undisclosed. The place had lots and lots of women. I wanted to see how many times I would be approached if I just sat and did totally nothing. I guess you can say I wanted to try "fishing" (only without crossing my legs). The experience I've had prior to this was that it's usually [the least attractive women intersected with, the women who like me the most] that will come to me first. This is of course just rule of thumb. Besides the least attractive women who like me the most, I will also get the wild girls who practically want me on the back of their motorcylcle. In fact, I had such a girl ask me out. She came to pick ME up (no not on a motorcycle this time). She honked her horn when she arrived. She drove wild, cussed and flipped off people etc. She brought me to a very nice restraurant! She showed me a great time and even paid for the meal! After we ate, she actually expect me to do something!!!! Anyway, back to the experiment. I literally sat at this place and did very little or nothing. I kept myself company on my SideKick which I also used for taking careful observation notes. In 2 years, I had about 5 women come to me. 2 or 3 of them were actually fairly pretty. Usually they just asked me a bunch of questions and then I never heard from them again. It was almost like they were just being nosey. The vast majority of the women there never or rarely spoke to me. In my experiment I always sat next to an empty chair (if I could) so it would be easy for them to approach me in a sly lady like fashion. It just never happened. I've concluded that in our culture, judging purely within the confines of this one isolated experiment, that if you're a man you have to make yourself BE known before women will know your qualities. This same place is completely different now. The gumps (please read my definition of gump on other note) were either kicked out or left. Now I know all kinds of women there. So perhaps it's the gumps who make it difficult for the women to meet guys who don't climb all over them. I have no idea. Maybe some of the lady readers can explain this phenomena to me. I'd like to hear some intelligent input!

    Horrific date I lived to tell about..



    I met a girl on Craigslist way back before I knew any better. I gave her my number and she of course called me right away. She was so perky and enthusiastic on the phone. She wanted to meet me. I was very very tired and I had just woken up, but decided to meet her anyway. We picked a meeting place that was halfway, which happened to be Safeway because we both knew where that was. Everything seemed okay up to this point.

    I went outside to start my car and it wouldn't start! This is a common problem I have with that car even to this day, only this was back when I didn't know how to work around the problem. I of course called her by phone to let her know I was having a problem. We talked a little at that point and she mentioned she was a diabetic and asked me if I had a problem with that. I thought in my mind that I of course prefer someone completely healthy, but I told her that it wasn't that big of a deal. I knew she couldn't help it.

    I met with her and decide to take her to Mel's in Berkeley only I NEVER drove to Berkeley from THAT side. I didn't really know my way but I didn't want her to think I didn't. It's the whole men don't like to ask for directions thing I guess. From that side she was more familiar than I was and I could have easily asked her, but I tried figuring it out myself anyway. Side note - When I first saw her I realized she was a little bit more woman than I usually like. I have since called THAT look, craigslist grade. It's when they're not really fat, but they are just below the level that would make them attractive. I of course remained polite and nice.

    As I'm driving along she continues to talk in a very perky telemarketer sounding voice. I tried to make her feel more at ease by speaking to her slowly and with a warm tone to my voice, but she would never just relax. It was like she was at an interview or something! That caused me to get a little bugged and it made me a touch more nervous than I normally would have been.

    I almost missed the exit. She yelled for me to TURN THERE!.. I of course turned there but I didn't really want to because I could navigate better by entering Berkeley from the other side (this was before I knew Berkeley like I do now, which is better but still not like a local). I know mentally where Mel's is at this point, but not streetwise. So I'm looking down streets to decided which one I want to turn on. She then screams and I look.. there was a divider ahead of me. I dodged it quickly and didn't hit it, but we almost got into a reck for sure. After that she would try to be a back seat driver or make suggestions but then she would catch herself and try not to. As with many things, once I make one mistake it usually leads to a string of others. This is especially true when I get nervous. I will say this, I have driven to Mel's in Berkeley several times and have NEVER had a problem until that night. I have never had any problems since.

    We get to Mel's only to find that it was closed! Wow, what kind of a man am I? I can't even plan something out right. I take a lady to a closed restaurant! I didn't realize how late it was because I had been sleeping. I guess I was still a little cloudy headed! I decide to take her to Denny's instead. I was now in an area I was familiar with and could easily take her there. On the way to Denny's she was asking me questions like, how many dates have I been on etc. I knew what she really meant to say is that I didn't look like I knew what I was doing. She's probably right since I had the same girlfriend I met in high school for years before becoming single. I really had no idea what I was doing.

    We got to Denny's and everything I said she would almost try to take the wrong way. Like I mentioned I was into telephone electronics. I mentioned some things about what I knew about and she took that to mean I might stalk her or evesdrop on her phone calls. I never even thought a girl's mind would go there, since I had no experience with how paranoid women have become over the years. She then insisted on paying for her meal. I'm old fashioned that way. I left her money on the table as the tip and I paid for the whole thing!

    As I was driving her back she tried to get me to turn but this time I knew where I was and I told her it would be better and quicker to keep going straight. I thought my trouble was over and then I passed up Safeway! I messed up again! Not a big deal but it just added to my long list of failures that night. I dropped her off and guess what? She NEVER called me again and she never returned any of my phone calls! That made me feel kind of bad. Makes me wonder if I should have told her I DID mind that she was a diabetic.. Nah, I prefer being the nice one dumped than something like HER any day.

    Well, that's my horror story!

    True Ghost Story



    I'm not sure if I should call this a ghost story or just unexplained events, I'll let you decide.

    It was probably about 9 pm and completely dark outside. My roommate was home and we had 1 person over for company. In my hallway right next to my bedroom is the washing machine and dryer, they were both running. The dryer really shakes! At that time I had a lot of computer cases in the hall, so to get to my room you had to step over and around a lot of things. My bedroom door was slightly opened and the light was on.

    Anyway, I am in the hall and all of a sudden I hear my phone ring. I remember walking toward my room and noticing that the light was already on. As I entered my room I could see the phone on the floor. I reached for the light switch by habit but then didn't do anything with the switch because I knew the light was already on. I just kind of touched it as I came in. My room was clearly lit. I sat on my bed and then picked up the phone. It was a bill collector from Discover card service. I explained to him that I had the money but I had been working 8 hours on and 8 hours off and 8 hours on, so I didn't even have a chance to pay anything. He then asked me if the address they had on file was correct. I told him it was my parents' address and that he could keep it that way. I explained that my mom complains if I don't come see her enough, so I might as well go over there to collect my mail. The bill collector understood and said it's the same way with him. (Now days I visit my mom and dad once a week). Anyway, in the course of his discussion, all of a sudden my lights go out. I didn't hear a click from the switch but then again, the dryer is pretty noisey. It seemed exactly the same as a solid state light timer shutting the lights out. My first assumption was that the power had gone out. I could sort of hear my roommate in the living room. I remember noticing that they didn't seem alarmed by anything. I started getting the idea that maybe it wasn't the whole house that lost power after all. Before I finished the phone conversation I noticed that my computers were all still on. I could see their lights lit up. After that I figured I must have blown a breaker or maybe the bulb was lose in the socket. I also thought it was possible that the bulb could have burned out, but when the bulb went out there was no quick flash and no popping sound, so that wasn't very likely.. After getting off the phone I reached for my switch for giggles and noticed to my surprise that the switch was in the down position! I went into the living room and asked my roommate if she walked by there and turned of my light, she said she didn't. I was kind of convinced she probably hadn't because of all the things she would have had to have walked around. Plus my room is at the very end of the hall.

    Electrical is something I know quite a bit about. I decided to conduct some tests to see if this was caused by something I could explain. First I thought maybe the switch was in an almost down position and then dropped down from the shaking that was coming from the washer and dryer. This seemed impossible because as soon as the switch is pulled down far enough to drop down, the light is already completely off. I then took the light switch out to study the wires. I was thinking maybe two wires could have been touching each other. When I checked inside the box, everything appeared fine.

    I of course talked to my roommate again and she still denied walking up, reaching in and turning off my light.

    If this WAS a ghost I feel it could have been warning me about my dad and possibly even both parents. I had mentioned my parents on the phone. At that time, my dad had melanoma on his back and colon cancer but didn't know it yet. If this was truly a ghost I believe it could have been a dead family member trying to warn me. Another thought was that when I started saying 8 hours on and 8 hours off, it was the same sort of thing I would say at work to have the lights turned off. Maybe the similarity confused some element of reality somehow. Okay, I'm going off the deep end with speculation here, but as it is, it's very strange to have a light switch JUST click down! Just so everyone knows my dad was all fixed up and he's doing fine. My mom has had some bad moments too, but she'd doing okay.

    Months and month later my roommate claimed that she would catch a glimpse of someone walk to the bathroom doorway while she was looking in the mirror. She would turn around but nothing would be there. She also said that one time she left the bathroom and came back in and found a toiled paper roll standing upright on the floor. She thinks she may have kicked it upright without realizing as she left. Last, and possibly the most spooky is that she claims she actually saw a "ghost". She was in bed sleeping and when she woke up she saw a little boy holding onto a flute. She said he was surprised when she opened her eyes and he sort of jerked back and his flute slipped from his hands a little. She said that his legs were through the bed and his feet were on the floor. It was as if he walked though the bed and was just standing there looking at her. She thinks she could have been half dreaming and admits that the little boy looked like a kid she worked with at the school.

    There was another girl who stayed at my place before I got my current roommate. She claimed that she got a little creeped out when she was there alone. I'm not sure why. In all the time I've lived there I hadn't really seen anything.

    There was one time I could have sworn while sleeping on my couch that this girl I know started kissing me like crazy. I assumed it was her because she was sleeping on the other couch. The next morning, I figured it must have been a dream. Later at another time, that same friend had a similar "dream" on the other couch (the couches match). She also thought it was me and claimed to have even enjoyed it..hahaa.. I could tell when she asked me if I had been in the living room, why she asked.. I told her I had a similar type of dream. We both concluded that the guy who owned the couches before me, must have had a lot of sex on them. haha.. The two of us knew each other for like about 5 years at that time and we both trust and believe each other.

    Oh and one last thing.. I heard a knocking sound under my floor.. It went.. knock knock knock.. It sounded very human like. This was when I had my current roommate, so it was relatively recent. I thought it could have been an animal clawing or maybe even sound carrying over from the neighbors. I knew it wasn't from plumbing, or at least I was pretty sure of that because I knew where the pipes ran. I talked to my brother about it and he told me that our grandmother (who passed away) had a habit of knocking with 3 knocks (instead of the traditional 4). I don't hear the knocking anymore and my roommate hasn't told me anything else unusual has happened, so at least for now, everything is back to normal.

    So what do you think? Is my place haunted. Can some or most of this stuff be explained? Did my roommate turn out my light as a joke? You can decide.

    For more stories like this, go to www.ghostgossip.com .

    The Rejector Protector woman!

    WARNING: I was in a crazy and silly mood when I wrote the following:


    The imfamous Rejector Protector woman!

    I run into women like this once in a while. It's when for whatever reason they want to reject me and it's usually to protect themselves in one form or another. Usually their ego. The odd part is it doesn't always mean they don't like me! It must be one of those women are from Venus moments.

    Then there is the Preumptive Rejector. They're in the same family as the Rejector Protector so I'll talk about them too. This is when they THINK you might be interested so they let you know they're not JUST IN CASE. I understand that in many ways some of them truly mean well but this is how it feels to me. Imagine you're walking down the street and someone walks up to you out of the blue and says, "I think you want me, oh and just so you know, I don't want you back!" What are you going to think? Do I say, "Oh thank you for letting me know?" I'm thinking wow, I don't even have to ask a woman out to be rejected. I don't even know how to respond to something like that. In a way it almost feels like a voluntary insult, because my first thought is WHY NOT, what's so wrong with me? She might as well just walk up to me and say, "Oh just in case you like me, the answer is no!" What a total wtf moment. They have more nerve than me, I don't even have the nerve to answer a girl when she asks me if I think she's getting fat.

    I actually have a guy friend named Roger who uses the Rejector Protector technique on women. Yes a male Rejector Protector! I asked him how that's possible since the man is usually the one to do the asking. He said he has it all figured out. What he does is walk up to a woman from behind and taps her on the shoulder to ask her for a dance. When she turns her head to see who tapped her shoulder, he puts a really sour and suprised look on his face, he puts his hand up to block his view of her face and he says, "Oh nevermind!" He takes great pleasure in what he calls ego bashing. I suppose everyone needs a hobby right? I'm sure each woman he approaches feel that same wtf moment.

    I have a really good story about a Rejector Protector. It happened to me at the Starry Plough. I was on my SideKick reading and my good girl-friend Vanessa tells me that a girl is staring at me (isn't it cool when an opposite sex friend will do that and not try to shoot you in the foot? Vanessa has always acted as my scout, she's so cool that way.) Anyway I pretended to be cocky by asking Vanessa what she thinks I thought of that.. She asked me what.... I replied, "Pfft nothin'".. That may not have been too far from the truth because I didn't pay her much mind. Well all of a sudden I hear a voice. It's that girl asking me about my SideKick. I'm thinking okay, now she's making a move. Naturally I didn't do very well because I am a little shy and especially so if they approach me, so I didn't say much and generally made an idiot out of myself. For a few weeks she would always sit at my table and danced with me quite a bit. Once she got more established at the place and sort of decided that I wasn't for her, she drifted some but it wasn't obvious enough to notice just yet. Anyway, my friend Carla decides that she think this girl really likes me. Carla walks up and tries to pair us up to dance together, making it very obvious that she thinks this girl likes me. I have to admit Carla made quite a scene. After the dance this girl says she needs to talk to me and we walk outside. She said that before months and months go by, she wants to let me know up front that she's not interested in me. My mouth dropped. Later she explained that she thought I put Carla up to doing what she did and I said NO.. Anyway, on many levels this was kind of annoying. 1. She came to me first and was initiating obvious interest. I never did anything but go with her flow. It's not my fault she's fickle or that she moves faster than the time it takes to know me. 2. She said she wasn't interested and yet she didn't even have time to know me! What could that mean? I can only hope she just thought we were moderately incompatible. Considering just weeks prior she seemed interested, I can also imagine the possibility could be that she thinks my personality sucks. 3. Likely she was only rejecting me to save face. When she saw how obvious her interest was in me she got embarrassed and wanted to prove that she wasn't. Well that's one guess anyway. She no longer goes to the Starry Plough and she no long befriends anyone that she met there. I guess she now considers herself too good. I haven't seen her in probably 2 years. So she is a definitely a possible Rejector Protector. No, I don't attend junior high but this paragraph sure does sound like it. :) Yes, I just admitted it.

    Then there is the Reciprocating Lover. This is a person who thinks that just because you love her, that she is required to tell you how SHE feels about you. Yes it feels good to be loved back by someone I love, but it's not manditory. I might see a woman do some very wonderful things. She might feed the poor and take care of sick and dying puppies on the roadside. I see all these wonderful things so I tell her, "I really do love you" and her reply is, "I'm sorry but I don't feel the same." I'm like where in the frickin' world did that come from? For one, love never expects anything in return if it's true and for two, how she feels about me doesn't change or have anything to do with how I feel about her. I can love a flower without picking it and puting it inside a vase! In fact, I'm happier to leave the flower where it wants to be.

    Don't think for a second it's the prettiest of girls who behave like this! Not necessarily, it's mostly the insecure. This means the toads have a shot too!

    Any serious responses to this blogs gets a double L-O-L.

    P.S. I love you all!:-)

    Dark Cave

    This paper I wrote is undated but I believe it was written in June of 1986. The title is

    Dark Cave

    Here I am, trapped in a deep dark cave. I know that my end is near. The only light that can be seen is by one tiny lit candle. I rely on this candle only to write my last thoughts for I have now given up hope.

    The air is cold and damp. I can hear the sound of running water seeping through the cracks of this dark stone prison. There is very little oxygen now, I feel the air getting thinner and thinner. Wondering if my next breath will be my last.

    As the oxygen goes, so does my little candle, and I soon to follow it. I see the evil thick darkness gradually taking over. I weaken with the candle, and as I weaken my senses are becoming much stronger.

    The cave is becoming darker and colder. Even the very stone at which I sit could be compared to an ice cube. In this cave there is no softness. Only cold jagged stones and darkness.

    Now I'm starting to hear strange sounds. The sounds of thousands chanting and screeching. I see strange figures that appear to be ghosts. I'm sitting here in ah, wondering if this is real or am I hallucinating. One spirit is talking. It's telling me that I'm going to die.

    The candle is beginning to flicker and then it suddenly goes out.

    Advantages of being passive aggressive..

    I think in many ways that passive aggressive behavior is much more considerate than aggressive behavior. The first example which comes to mind is a door to door salesman versus a huge shopping mall. The door to door salesman is the aggressor. Think about how you feel when you're right in the middle of cooking dinner and you hear a knock knock knock at the door! The work of the aggressor always subjects himself to the possibility of making a pest out of himself. A good door to door salesman can't be afraid to impose on a person's time. The mall on the other hand is great! It's always there when you want it. If you need something or if you just want to look around and window shop, the idea of being there is almost always a pleasant one!

    Now lets take a look at men and women. Wouldn't you say, wearing a short skirt, jewelry and makeup is a form of passive aggressive? Especially if they just find a nice visible spot to sit, and then they just cross their legs and wait? So the job of the aggressor is pretty much the man. Now I still say passive agressive is more friendly but in this case it becomes a touch confusing. The woman's passive aggression is usually not at all directed. This means several men have to risk being a pest by coming to her. Women say they prefer the man to make the first move, yet at the same time, they complain about being hit on! Think about it, lets say a woman just got word that a family member was in the hospital. She's walking out to her car and some man jumps out of nowhere and says, "Hey baby, can I get your digits?" Lets face it, aggressive behavior has its annoying moments. I guess it would be nice if women could have a big blinking red light on their head when they're ready to be asked out, but that hasn't been invented yet. Also if you do the math, letting the woman fish until she picks the right one is always going to give her the advantage and with far less work (not to mention no rejection abuse). She will pick what she likes best and the man will take what he ends up with (in short, the man works harder and usually gets less). It's sort of a sucker situation. It also works bad for the woman too. She ends up getting the aggressive insensitive type guys who don't mind imposing. The aggressive men are probably less satisfied because they got what they "ended up with" and are probably more likely to cheat because of that. In order to be that great door to door saleman, he can't be afraid to put his foot in the door if need be! Let's face it, women don't like men sticking things where they don't belong!

    So in the interest of getting a better pick and also in the interest of insuring that women can be happy with a nice considerate caring man, I have devised somewhat of a solution. The idea is to fight fire with fire. Men and women both becoming passive aggressive! Not only will this be more fair and closer to equality, but also everyone will benefit! So now, let me explain about men becoming passive aggressive. This is where it gets really fun! No, it doesn't mean men will start wearing tight nut huggers and buttoned down shirts (that died in the 70s with Three's Company). There are other ways to be passive aggressive, and it's very worth while to implement. Think about how much better the man quality you would end up with! Passive aggressive people tend to want to know what the other person feels. Aggressive people are more like a bulldozer. So imagine, if you would, men walking by a number of tables. The women at each table are just sitting there ignoring the man as he walks by. Later that night they read his blog on facebook and he rates each female he saw that day on a scale of 1 to 10 or simply just yes or no. Now it is no longer just the aggressors ego at stake! Wow, what do you think of that!

    Well maybe that style of passive aggressiveness will never happen, but I have to say I personally love being passive aggressive! I can express so much more. If I feel abused by someone i can express it without confrontation! haha. I don't have to impose myself on someone just to tell them what I'm feeling. I can actually be as kind and considerate as a woman..haha I laugh because being too passive aggressive really isn't all that nice. Subjecting the opposite sex to all the rejection is really kind of cruel. So, because women care so much, they should be ecstatic over my new system!

    Bubble Gum Girls



    In this note I would like to discuss yet another typical stereotype, the Bubble Gum Girl. I'm sure the Bubble Gum Girl has a male counter part, but since I don't date men it's up to the famale readers to describe a man like this in the comments, assuming men like that exist.

    Basically a Bubble Gum Girl is a girl who treats a relationship like a stick of gum. She finds the gum really tastey when she first starts chewing, but spits it out as soon as the flavor goes away.

    A girl like this will probably never find true happiness. Chasing thrill by constantly looking for the new and exciting, can only be damaging in the long run. A long meaningful and loving relationship is a benefit to her, but jumping from man to man will get her noplace. She will be like a bear clawing in its tracks.

    This girl rarely cares about anyone but herself. I've seen girls act totally gaw gaw over me. I would swear by their actions that they would probably love me forever. They call me non stop and want to see me all the time. To my surprise, after a month or two, she starts drifting away. Nevermind that maybe this guy has developed feelings for her, she's ready to go. I guess it's true, when a bulb burns twice as bright, it lasts half as long (take that any way you want).

    I've since learned that the best girl is a girl who is not shallow. She's the girl who doesn't have the whole gaw gaw things going on when she first meets you. She sort of becomes more and more attached to you as time progresses. In other words, she has real reasons to love you, not just school girl infatuation and self love. This is one way a guy can tell if he's with a Bubble Gum Girl or not. A deep girl will take the time to see who you are and she will savor that long term relationship, understanding it's value. She knows that constantly seeking short term thrills is like a dog chasing its tail, it gets her noplace. I'm sure to some degree, learning to value a relationship is a form of maturity. Learning that the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence, so why not water her own yard?

    Saving migrating birds at Altamont Pass...

    Below is an email I wrote concerning birds being killed by wind turbines at the Altamont Pass during their yearly migration. They want to shut down the turbines at certain times of the year to save birds. This is a nice thought but I'm in favor of good old fashioned Yankee innovation. Below is my email to the Alameda Board of Supervisors I wrote AFTER it was confirmed in an article that they were going to shut down turbines during the bird's mirgration each year to protect them.

    ----I think saving birds in their migration is a really good thing. I just don't know where all the innovative Americans have gone. It seems like the solution to all problems is to either shut something down or outlaw it. An example is pocket bikes. It was brought up that they were unsafe because they were too low to the ground to be seen. The obvious solution was to just outlaw them. Great, no thought required. Well, after sitting down and thinking for 20 seconds or so, I thought about placing long flags on the pocket bikes. That way cars can see them and kids still get to have fun. Well back to the windmills. For the money it costs to not use the windmills, you might as well put up a wire mesh around them to protect the birds. If you don't like that idea, what about tall cyclone fenses? If you don't like that idea, how about high pitched whistles that make the birds stay away. If you don't like that idea, what about consulting with experts on the subject that are far more knowledgable than I am? For crying out loud, farmers in the old days didn't close their farms because of birds. They put up scare crows and netting. Lets all think like they did. I realize most of the wind is in the summer time, but still. All that asside, I would like to personally thank you guys for doing at least something to save the birds. I'll give credit where credit is due.

    Women getting bad advice from girlfriends about relationships

    Coming from a guy who has observed this first hand, I'm not just typing through my nose here(so to uh type). Everytime I'm with a girl and we have some kind of disagreement I can almost always tell when she's been talking to her girlfriends.

    From what I can tell, going to a girlfriend for relationship advice is like going to a medical book to diagnose yourself. It might be somewhat helpful, but due to lack of detail she needs because she wasn't there first hand, you end up coming away more paranoid than helped. A paranoid relationship is not a good thing at all! Never ever underestimate what lack of trust can do!

    The most common theme with women giving other women advice is that this man is obviously trying to control or manipulate you. He is out to rob you of your life. It doesn't matter what sad story scenerio you give them, this will somehow almost always come up. Do you really want the same cookie cut-out advice for every single problem you come to them with? If he's acting distant or spending a lot of time away from home, he's almost always cheating on you according to many of them.

    In my opinion the problem with taking a woman's advice about your relationship is that every man is unique. Sure some men have similarities but even with that said, we all have our own personalities and motives. From my observation, some/many women tend to relate to your story through horrible relationships they've had. So now your guy becomes every bad relationship she's had! I alway hear a woman say, "Oh that reminds me of what Bill used to do, watch out that should be seen as a red flag!" Keep in mind, in many cases you're taking advice from someone who failed and doesn't know as much as you do about your current relationship.

    I had this one girl I was dating and somewhat pursuing, tell me that I just wanted a young women like her so I could control them (I was 30 and she was 21). After she said that I immediately knew that she must have been talking to some other girlfriend about me. First of all, a guy liking younger women is pretty natural. Many guys like younger women. Are they all trying to be controlling? There are logical reasons men instrinctively go for younger women, but that's beyond the scope of this note. The point is that according to her friend, any guy who is significantly older than her is automatically controlling. All of a sudden I'm old, set in my ways and am unable to think of another person! Why?? Because her friend told her so!

    Another problem with following a girlfriends advice is that you just might have a hemorrhoid for a friend (please read my note on hemorrhoids for more details). Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that a girlfriend's advice is altogether rediculous, I'm just saying take her advice with a grain of salt. Her advice might actually be helpful, but you should always use your own brain/gut as your ultimate guide (in my opinion).

    I am a nice guy most of the time. I'm not controlling as far as I can tell. I have never been unfaithful. I'm not sneaky about the really bad things. If I'm with a woman and we have a disagreement, I'm doomed if she goes to her friend for advice. I all of a sudden become every one of those things I'm not. The advice she received accomplished nothing except ruining an otherwise potentially good relationship! The sad part is often the breakup is caused by total illusionment!

    My advice ladies, if you have a problem with your man, talk to him first!

    Why do men and women always pick jerks?



    This has been something I've thought about for a long time. I could never figure out why a young lady would pass up a respectible guy for a total slimeball. I used to imagine that maybe it was because of the thrill or challenge. I was never quite sure.

    As I started having relationships or attempted relationships, I noticed that I too was going after bad women. I didn't want the bad ones but I was ending up with them somehow. I was always careful and I looked for certain key qualities but I still messed up.

    I like to keep an opened mind so I asked all kinds of sources. I even asked my own mother about this. She said that nobody is perfect and that I just have to weigh a woman's good qualities against her bad qualities. That was a nice suggestion (thanks Mom) but it didn't help too much. I say that because generally the few bad qualities they had weren't really worth the good qualities. I call understandable bad qualities something like, being cranky sometimes, telling an occasional white fib or getting into an argument. I don't however consider drug or excessive alcohol use acceptable. I don't consider being generally damaged to the point that I can't depend on her acceptable. I don't consider physically abusive women acceptable. I don't consider spoiled and destructive style arguing all that acceptable either but I could probably tolerate an occasional bad argument.

    I would turn to my guy friends and they pretty much say that women suck. That was nice to know they wanted to help but simply telling me they suck wasn't really going to help much. Some told me I needed to look elsewhere. They suggested the midwest or even other countries. I didn't much care for the whole idea of mail order. Somehow that was missing something.

    I would ask women for advice about where to look, but that almost never worked. You would think that being a women they would know women best, but often what a women wants and what she thinks she wants is very very different. So they would give suggestions on how to get the "good ones" but I already knew it wouldn't work. I decided to open my mind and try their ideas anyway, and sure enough, they didn't work... Yes, of course it would work for THEM! If they used those techiques to get men it would work but then again, EVERYTHING works on men!

    All of a sudden it dawned on me why men and women both end up getting mixed up with the wrong types of people. I think it's because women can never know men like other men do and visa vera - men can never know women like women do! That's why you see women all talking amongst themselves trying to figure out why a good looking guy is going out with "that thing" and the guy sees nothing wrong with her at all. It's the same with men. Us guys can see right through a slimeball dude, and yet the girl he's with doesn't seem to notice anything at all!

    It struck me that if you ever want to know what you might not be seeing in the opposite sex, just ask someone of that person's same gender! Now this is not a cure all, people go after damaged people for different reasons, but if you are one of those who thinks you're with someone nice only to be broken hearted later, perhaps this technique will work for you.

    Stereotyping

    As anyone knows who reads my notes, I do tend to stereotype. Some people feel that it's wrong to do this. To some it's viewed as a sort of prejudice and to others it might even look like an attempt at socially controlling people.

    First I have to say that most of my stereotyping is only for fun. There are hints of truth but only for the purpose of humor. Just trying to imagine someone taking my notes completely serious, is a bit disturbing to me.

    As for those who view stereotyping as a form of prejudism, I think it CAN be related but not necessarily. Stereotyping is an observation of consisitant patterns. It's placing what we see in little boxes for the purpose of making sense of the world around us. It's also helpful in quickly describing a person that someone has never met before. People categorize each and every day. It doesn't matter if you're a scientist or a security guard. There is absolutely nothing wrong with stating your personal observations. I believe where stereotyping CAN become wrong is when you use these stereotypes to develope a prejudice. An example of what I mean is that it's okay to say many black people can play basketball well. That's just a general observation and there is almost never anything wrong with the truth. It's only wrong or incorrect if you see a black person walking up that you've never met and say, "Oh, he is black, he's definitely good at basketball." I guess you can say, "Oh, he's black, so I speculate that he may be good at basketball" but it's never good to use stereotypes as a way of knowing something before you actually know it. Especially if it's something negative (the only exception I can think of is if you're walking down a public street and you see someone you assess to be shady, and you cross the street as a precaution). When I see a prissy young girl wearing hoop earrings and thick makeup, I try to ignore the fact that she could be a poptart (vain and selfish). I always try to give each and every individual person the benefit of the doubt. There are so many different types of people out there, you really can't go completely off of stored generalization.

    As for my posts being used in some indirect way to attempt social control, well THAT was never my intention. Obviously what I'm saying is an attempt to change things but that doesn't mean I want to CONTROL people. As I see it, there's never anything wrong with stating your dislike for certain things. Often it's helpful if people know that other people can't stand their behavior. We are all entitled to our opinion. In most of my posts I don't really emphasize on change anyway. If you notice, I just merely describe a certain stereotype and then ask you if you've ever met someone like that before.

    In closing I just want to AGAIN make it clear that most of my posts are just in light hearted fun, and are not intended to be taken seriously.

    The Burning of our Flag

    The law against buring the American flag is a very interesting one. In my opinion it's sort of a contradiction to the American idea. Yes, I really dislike seeing someone burn the flag but at the same time, I dislike the idea of someone being able to say they can't. The whole topic of flag burning could have been brought up for the sole purpose of taking away our freedoms. If we say it's not okay to burn flags then we will be opening up a big can of worms. Soon it will not be okay to criticize our leaders. Soon it will not be okay to print whatever we want in the newpapers. The list goes on. Yes, people argue that our flag should be respected because people have died for it. I agree, but I also remember that people have died to give every individual person the freedom to burn that flag if they so choose. As much as I would hate to see that done, I must honor an individual's personal freedom of expression. Anyone that is truly in favor of freedom, must also be in favor of toleration. Nobody can have total freedom without offending someone else. That's why I don't understand terms like "politically correct". A person should say what he thinks. Not beating around the bush (no pun intended).



    There is a lot of irony I see. For example, supposedly we are fighting terrorism to preserve the American way of life, yet people are wanting to remove the right to bare arms from our pilots. Hello, this is letting the supposed terrorists win! We trust these pilots with our lives just by getting in the plane. If they want to protect themselves with a gun, it makes no sense to me, why passengers should be worried. Same goes for people who are actually willing to give up their rights at the airport. "If you're willing to give up your freedom for security, you deserve neither."



    I really think that laws should be carefully thought out. Laws enter the books but they don't easily go away. Even if they are obsolete in some cases. I believe that a law should be based around the rights each American has.. Life, liberty and persuit of happiness. Does not wearing a seatbelt effect anyone but me? Well, then why am I forced to wear one? Insurance companies don't lose money! They are PAID to lose money. That's the way their business is ran.



    Okay, now lets think about other things.. Like capital punishment.. Well, truthfully I don't care what happens to a murderer. The only reason that I am sort of against capital punishment is because we don't always get the right person. I think if he spends time in prison, he will have the opportunity of being discovered innocent. Our system is not perfect and it shouldn't be treated as such. Should any man have the right to dictate when another man dies? Not that I care, but isn't waiting around to die considered cruel and unusual punishment?



    Now abortion is also an interesting topic.. Women want the right to choose. This makes no sense at all to me. Can they choose to murder their boyfriend too? Doesn't the unborn child have just as much right to umm choose as she does? If another life wasn't involved I would agree with women who say this, but because a life is involved, I think they're full of crap. They want to do whatever they want without thinking about anyone but themselves or without paying for the consequences of their own actions. Also, if the man is unwed, he has no say whether she aborts HIS child. How would a woman like it if a man could force her into aborting her child? What's really ironic is that if she decides to have the baby, it's no longer just her baby, but once again, it's the man's child too! I guess this is because if she decides she wants the baby, she also wants the man's money, but if she doesn't want the baby, he doesn't matter.. Wow, whats a concept. I believe women do have the right to choose. They can choose to keep their legs together or not. Once they allow the male's genetic material to be inserted, she is at that point, involving a lot more people than herself into the mix.

    Interesting, my thoughts started out with flags and ended with abortion..

    Women and Herd Mentality




    It's a well known fact that if a guy wants to screw up with a woman, just ask her out when she's with her friends. Women have a whole lot of their own internal politics that makes things extremely complicated if you're looking at it from the outside.

    The biggest problem with groups of women is it raises the chances that something can go wrong. There are just way too many added variable to the formula.

    When in a group it's okay for women to show interest in a guy as long as all of them are showing interest at the same time. They usually know when this is okay, because a few will comment about him as he walks up. On the flip side, if any of them are disinterested, nobody in the group is allowed to be interested.

    Another thing I've noticed is that if a woman likes a guy while she's with her friends, she will try very hard to act disinterested. Why you might ask? Well it's the whole herd thing. If she acts interested, it will make her friends become interested and she knows it. So her solution is to not act interested at all. Often many of the women in this group will be doing the same exact thing. I guess one other possible reason is that she might not want to risk rejection with her friends watching but that's not as likely.

    We mustn't over look peer pressure. If one or more women in the herd are showing disinterest in a guy it becomes very embarrassing for one to admit she finds him attractive. This chain reaction can all start from just 2 or 3 women in the group opening their big mouth at the wrong time. Another aspect of peer pressure is that everyone wants to show off a little with their friends. It's the whole cool factor. Cool factor can greatly reduce a guy's chances unless he knows how to work around it.

    Then there is the whole competition thing. No woman is allowed to aggressively be nice to the guy. Everyone MUST play the game. If she tries to talk to him, she is a cheating slut. All the girls in the group must play hard to get so they can see who he likes the best.



    If a guy picks a girl and another is mad about it, she will make up smack about the guy. This usually doesn't do the picked girl or the guy any good. It usually doesn't do anyone any good. Please read my blog on hemorrhoids to learn more about this type of person. If you don't believe what kind of damage hemorrhoids can do, just imagine asking that cute middle girl in the above photograph. Don't think for a second that her less attractive friends will let that happen! They're probably used to her getting all the guys first and it makes them mad. The ironic thing is many toads will hang out with a pretty girl to get all the guys she doesn't want.

    Last, if you talk to a girl in front of her friends and any one of them has anything negative to say or think, she will say it. This in turn makes the girl you're talking to change her mind for whatever the reason. I guess if you don't impress the herd, you're no longer desirable.

    I actually broke this whole rule of never asking a girl to dance when she's with her friends. This is a true story. I actually asked a group of 6 girls to waltz with me at once. Not only is that cocky but it's also very risky. Of course one girl in the group asks, "You mean you want us to all dance together?" and I said, "Yes." So what did they do? They all paired up in 3 separate pairs and danced the waltz. I just stood there with no partner. I was amazed as well as humored by it. I sort of kicked myself for asking an even number of girls to dance, because that made it possible for them to do this to me. I walked away and found a girl by herself and asked her. She said yes.

    So as you can see, even though it seems like my odds were better asking 6 over asking 1, number odds simply don't apply when it comes to women.

    Video Game Advertisement Movies

    A video game advertisement movie is what I call a movie that has a layout very much like a video game. It becomes obvious that the reason the movie was made in the first place was to sell some future game. People may not be aware of this, but more money is made from the sale of video games than movies themselves. Once upon a time, people used to try to design a video game AFTER a movie and found that it made them big bucks. Now I feel they're doing just the opposite. They plan a video game and design a movie FOR that game. In my opinion, this often causes the movie to suck. The last movie I saw which hinted to this was Death Race.






    Not all video game advertisement movies suck though. I actually enjoyed watching The Matrix.



    This concept of using movies to advertise is not just something game manufacturers are using. Even Walt Disney uses this technique! Disneyland's business was dropping so they came out with two movies which I think were made with almost the complete purpose of advertising. One movie was Pirates of the Caribbean. Disney even altered their Pirates of the Caribbean ride slightly to match up with the movie.






    Then there was The Haunted Mansion, a movie based on the popular Disney theme park attraction, starring Eddie Murphy. I didn't actually go to see this particular movie but it came out around the same time period as Pirates of the Caribbean I suspect that it was also layed out to be a ride advertisement, to bring people back to their park.



    I just miss the days when a movie was designed for the sole purpose of entertainment. Movies which appealed to the imagination. Now days a lot of movies have plenty of the eye candy, but they miss that spark of imagination that older movies put in your mind. Like the movie THEM (1954) a science fiction about giant ants.



    Or War of the Worlds after the H.G. Wells novel. Back when movies were made to be movies AND people put real effort into making them. Motion pictures in those days were a whole lot better!

    Fear of rejection

    I had a friend of mine point out that fear of rejections seems to be a very common theme of mine. She said that it hints around to the possibility that maybe I was rejected a lot and this reflects my own fears. She also says she senses a thouch of bitternes. Knowing what I wrote, when I wrote it, this doesn't surprise me.

    First of all, let me share my fears. Yes, it's common to fear rejection. it's something that everyone can identify with. I would be lying if I told you I never feared it. Is it something I obsess on? No, probably not, but it still makes for good reading, wouldn't you agree? When I was much younger I used to fear rejection a lot more than I do today. I think it's me being more content with who I am that gives me all the pride and confidence I need. No matter what you do in life, you have to listen to your heart louder than other people's insults, because no matter who you are, people are always going to try to put you down. This is just the way the world operates. This doesn't really make me a bitter person to point this out, but I can certainly see how I come across that way, from time to time.

    As a young man I used to read a lot about what to do to GET a woman. There were all these techniques, like knowing to kiss her when she starts playing with her hair and knowing how to work around road blocks. There were even techniques which show you how to be like a bad boy without being one. After reading enough of those books I realized something. I have something to offer. I have TONS to offer someone. I shouldn't have to sell myself. Especially not to someone who I have to trick by using techniques which work around her own mental problems. Is that being conceited? Well maybe it is, and maybe I have the right to be to some degree. I guess I'm just recognising my own self worth. Is that bad? I mean think about it, why would I want to constantly try to convince someone I am something to be had? Does a pretty diamond ring or a nice red sports car have do that? After thinking it over, I felt there was no sense in trying to work around a woman's mental problems and decided just to be myself. If a woman prefers bad boys, that's not MY problem. I would rather not have them. Is this negative? Well maybe, but at the same time it's positive. I want to give my heart to the right person. Someone who not only treats me right, but everone.

    Now, back to rejection. If I ask you for a dance OR a date I don't EXPECT you to say YES. You're not obligated to say yes to me. I want you to say NO if you don't like me or if you don't wish to dance. I wouldn't be asking you, if I didn't expect a yes or no answer. I don't even mind a maybe. The only thing I wish to stress is that I think when a person rejects, they should be polite about it. It's not the rejection that bugs me, it's the treatment! Is this negative? Well, not exactly. Let me explain. I want to make a positive change by pointing out the negatives. So if you look at it that way, I'm showing the dark contrast of life, so I can bring about the brighter light. In other words, I believe my message is a good and positive one.

    These days I don't fear rejection nearly as much as I did when I was a young man. It's mainly because I am comfortable with who I am now. It might also be because I know not all women make the best of choices and for them to reject me, it's not a sure sign that I'm a reject just because she perceives me to be one. Also many poeple in my life I'm not sure I even want. I guess you can say I have my fair share of rejecting as well. People wonder why I like being passive aggressive. They believe that maybe all my bad experiences have caused me to become withdrawn. That might be a little true but for the MOST part that's not it at all. You see, all a man's life he spends looking outward. Trying to get a woman to see him. Trying to get a woman to like him. Trying to be accepted. We do all these things being the aggressor. After a while we realize that we can pretty much obtain any woman we want if we put our mind to it and TRY. The problem is that we never have anyone TRY to get us. We are always the ones that are active. It has the same numbing feelings that you might get when every phone conversation you have with a good friend requires YOU to make the call. Isn't it nice to RECEIVE a call too? Wouldn't you PREFER a friend who notices you never call, over one who really could care less? Making the first move actually starts getting old after a while. There are lots of women to look at. That's a dime a dozen. It's rare to find one that will actually look at YOU. Someone who will walk up and give ME a hug without me expecting one. Someone that will outwardly show you she cares. That's my goal now. That is my holy grail. I might live my whole life being Ponce De Leon, but I don't care. We like to feel wanted TOO. We like to be won over. We like to be shown we're attractive. A one way street is like a one way conversation. It's fun to talk and talk and talk but eventually we want to hear a response. I've come to the point in my life, where I've had everything but that one thing. I want a girl who looks outward at the world as well as inward. I want her to be giving and caring as much as she takes. Is this considered a bad thing? Well, maybe it is and maybe it isn't. Either way, that's what I want. To some I might come off as bitter. I think everyone in life has some degree of dirty laundry, it's really difficult not to, but in generally I'm not bitter at all. You just have to listen very carefully to understand where I'm coming from.

    The Hemorrhoid

    A Hemorrhoid in the context I'm using is basically any person who doesn't have any purpose except for being a pain in the back side.

    Hemorrhoids come in many different forms. It can be a significant other who has gone well beyond their prime and has nothing else left to offer except nagging. It can also be the following...


    Many guys will term a certain type of girl a hemorrhoid. It's usually the type of girl they find unattractive but yet make the mistake of be friending anyway. After a while the guy finds that she's more of a problem than she's worth. She'll sometimes whine and complain more than a real girlfriend, and at least a hot girlfriend has the plus sides. All a hemorrhoid has is plus sizes!

    Whether you're a guy or a girl it doesn't matter. If you have a hemorrhoid for a friend you might as well remain single forever. A hemorrhoid can't have you, but the hemorrhoid doesn't want anyone else to have you. If a girl is friends with a hemorrhoid, her hemorrhoid friend will do all she can to keep you from staying in a good relationship. The hemorrhoid doesn't want a guy coming along and taking away from her time with you. She will give you all kinds of reasons why the man you picked is wrong and will even twist things the guy said. From a guy's point of view, it's very difficult to get with a nice girl if she has a hemorrhoid for a friend.



    For guys a hemorrhoid is very similar. He befriends her and in many cases this girl has a crush on you. She knows she can't have you but for some reason seems to think that by making sure you can't have anyone else, you'll someday decide to take her. A hemorrhoid is very sneaky. She'll do all kinds of things to shoot you in the foot and tries very hard to make it look accidental or innocent! Whenever a cute girl comes around, one way or another, the hemorrhoid will screw things up for you. The hemorrhoid is never happy so therefore doesn't want you to be happy either.

    Has anyone ever met somebody like this?

    My thoughts on shallowness

    I want a girl that understands the real meaning of being shallow. Just because you're not shallow doesn't mean that you won't take looks into consideration. If looks had no purpose, men and women wouldn't instinctively look for them. What shallow means is that the person puts looks way above everthing else. A shallow girl will go for someone like Scott Peterson. Nevermind that he's a murderer, if she thinks he looks good, she goes for him anyway. Shallow isn't always about looks. It can be about money too. A shallow woman might judge a guy by his status (how much he makes, what kind of car he drives, etc). A single man works to take care of himself. This means he CAN work at a lesser paying job. This doesn't mean he's not capable of anything better. A woman who isn't shallow will look for the man's integrity and substance. A pretty boy that has a huge inheritance (without the before mentioned traits) is nothing if the money ever goes away. A man with integrity and substance is not too proud to mow lawns in order to feed his family. Back in the old days, couples started off with nothing and worked together to build a family structure. That's where the saying "Behind every successful man is a good woman" came from. A shallow woman will just cherry pick a man so she can live her dream life without putting forth effort of her own. If I walk up to a shallow woman for a dance, she might turn me down because she doesn't like the song. A deep woman will take more importance in the human that asked, than the song. I'm not suggesting a woman is obligated to say yes but I'm just trying to describe distinction. If I asked a shallow woman to the movies, she will say, "I don't know, it depends on what's playing?", but a deep woman will say, "Yes, thanks for the kind offer, by the way, what's playing?".

    Ever deal with a gump?



    A gump is pretty much a guy who hits on girls used car salesman style.

    I define a GUMP as a guy who is starved for attention, has no respect for himself and generally has no etiquette. He usually seems to think women will have no natural desire for him, so he hounds them to make up for his insecurites. A gump can literally be told to go away and with no pride lost, he'll still come back. Gumps never play fair or cool. If he sees another guy talking to a girl he won't give him space with the knowledge that he was talking to her first. He'll even try to shake hands with the guy, forcing him to play friendly as to not look bad in front of the girl. A gump may even attempt to point out the other guy's flaws to make himself appear better. A gump is also a guy who kisses a girl's behind and has no opinion of his own. They tend to side with women and will do anything for them, even though women rarely do anything for them. A gump is usually a man but I hear there is a female version of one as well.

    Oh yes, and a gump is also a guy who always compliments a girl, so she'll like him. He usually over does it though. He can never sit back and just let things happen naturally. His only game is pure desperation.

    A gump is usually the first man on the scene and the last one to leave unless you scream at him to go away about 10 times. All gumps do is mess it up for everyone.

    Has anyone had experience with any of these critters?

    Poptarts

    Okay, I talked about gumps in a previous blog so just to show I am NOT sexually biased I'm now going to talk about a certain type of female. They are referred to as a Poptart.

    Poptarts by their very nature are artificially sweetened and colored. They tend to be fake and heartless. Techno is to music what poptarts are to women. Techno being synthetic music and potarts being synthetics girls. The best example of a poptart that comes to mind is Britney Spears.



    As you can see, she is totally fake. She almost looks like a Barbie doll. Peroxi blonde hair, makeup caked on and even her clothing appears somewhat synthetic! It's not uncommon to see a poptart with fake boobs or hoop earrings too, but that doesn't always have to be the case.

    The habitat for a poptart is usually concerts, clubs and bars. You will sometimes see them shopping at places like Forever 21 or Wet Seal. Their favorite reading would probably be 16 Magazine. They tend to not be very technically minded. If you tell them they have a low IQ, they'll get defensive and tell you to stop insulting their eye sight. Poptarts are usually sort of a shallow and hollow type person. Poptarts are not always into sex and drugs but many are. Poptarts are usually young but occassionally you see old weathered Poptarts. Poptarts walk around with a conceited prissy gaze on their face. They generally look cheap and artificial.

    A Poptart does not come across as wholesome or even as something you can take seriously. A smart man would probably never marry one.

    The perfect match for the poptart is of course the gump! Please read my previous blog on gumps to know what one is.

    Miss Teen USA South Caroline is another example of a Poptart. Here's the link...
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj3iNxZ8Dww

    So does anyone know anyone like this?